Day 18,787
What’s Next For Us:
A Study in Life, Passion, Sabotage, and a Return to Self, Simplicity, and Consistency.
* Warning: Some spoiler alerts if you haven’t watched yet, but really not many.
The relationship between Sydney and her father is one I love. I miss my dad. He died.
My mom died too. Too young. Death seems to be a central theme in The Bear, death is something that keeps coming up for me. Because even though we’re living, sometimes we’re not really living and we have to kill of what does not work for us anymore. But i digress.
My father was a waiter. Not too much of a respected job here in the US. But he loved it. He would say to me that there was nothing else he could do. He could never sit in an office from 9 to 5.
I think I got this from him. I've spent my time on and off in office, and it nearly killed me and my soul. I think my body and mind were just trying to tell me something and I could create some major sabatoges - similar to Episode 1 that was a real sabatago move by Carmy.
And I'm still running, trying to figure out what the next step is. I put away what the passions were. Suddenly, I realized in watching "The Bear" what it is all about - the passion, the love, the technique, the consistency—I have always been afraid of consistency. That little thing, consistency can lead you to greatness, but the journey, hard to go through.
These days, it takes me many years—many decades—to realize that no one really cares what you're doing. Do they really... you have your family close to you and frankly they are your phantom cheerleaders, supposedly cheering on the sides but do they really want you to change and grow - that would mean they are losing a bit of you.
Side note - this would be Day 2 of writing in a row. I’m just lettin ggo and letting the thouhgts come from me . they may not be perfect they may not be succifnct but F*ck perfection its stopped me so long that righ tnow i’m just going to lget hte totouhgs flow and i hope you stay on thi sjourney with em …
But then you realized you used the excuse of others of being judged to stop, and the realization is that you realized it was YOU who stopped yourself all these years because of all those reasons. And then you wake up and... Life, days, years, and decades have passed by.
The bear may not be fully real, but is it not real at the same time? Trying to fight the narratives and lessons your failure has given you; trying to figure out if you're doing the right thing; trying to figure out if to keep going on the business you started or to give up; believing in yourself. If you think you messed up, believe in yourself again.
So many things... What pieces jump at me in my own personal story? How did they write this that leans so close to my own stories and memories? Is this true for you?
NON-NEGOTIABLES
Terrifying. But it's true. I've realized that when I did not live by this, I lost myself. And The Bear reminds us that non-negotiables are imperative to ensuring you live your life and reach your potential, bit by bit. Each of them sees Carmy losing a bit of himself, but I appreciate that Sydney realizes it is critical and appreciates her partner's thoughts on how to lead life and work.
TAKE US THERE
[Spoiler, stop here if you need to.]
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Marcus has lost his mother. She has gone through so much pain. It is so distressing when your parents go through a terrible illness. I know. I understand. You don't want them in pain anymore, but at the same time, it hurts so much when they are no longer there to be a part of your life and see you through life or be there when you screw up and just want someone to answer the phone to listen to you.
Marcus realized the non-negotiables are critical to moving forward in life; life is precious; the non-negotiables in your life are critical. I forgot about these.
What are yours? Don’t forget them.
Just some thoughts for today.
WATCH
MUSIC from The Bear, Season 3 EPISODE 2
Episode 2 – “WHAT’s NEXT”
“Save It for Later” by Eddie Vedder. [Originally by The English Beaats
“Two dozen other dirty lovers
Oh, must be a sucker for it
Cry but I don’t need my mother
Just hold my hand while I come to a decision on it
Sooner or later, your legs give way, you hit the ground
Save it for later, don’t run away, let me down
Sooner or later, you’ll hit the deck, you’ll get found out
Save it for later, don’t run away and let me down, you let me down
Run away, run away, let me down
Black air and seven seas, all rotten through
But what can you do?
I don’t know how I’m meant to act with all of you lot
Sometimes, I don’t try
I just, “Na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na
Na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na
Na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na”
Sooner or later, your legs give way, you hit the ground
Save it for later, don’t run away, and let me down
Sooner or later, you’ll hit the deck, you’ll get found out
Save it for later, don’t run away, don’t run away, and let me down
Run away, run away, and let me down
Run away, run away, let me down
Run away, run away
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Get tickets as low as $53
Two dozen other stupid reasons
Why we should suffer for this
Don’t bother trying to explain them
Just hold my hand while I come to a decision on it
Sooner or later, your legs give way, you hit the ground
Save it for later, don’t run away, and let me down
Sooner or later, you’ll hit the deck, you’ll get found out
Save it for later, don’t run away, don’t run away, and let me down
Run away, run away, and let me down
Run away, run away, let me down”
“They love me like I was a brother
They protect me
Listen to me
They dug me my very own garden
Gave me sunshine
Made me happy
Nice dream
Nice dream
Nice dream
I call up my friend the good angel
But she’s out with
Her answer-phone
She says she’d love to come help but
The sea would
Electrocute us all
Nice dream
Nice dream
Nice dream
Nice dream
Nice dream
Nice dream
Nice dream, if you think that you’re strong enough
Nice dream, if you think you belong enough
Nice dream, if you think that you’re strong enough
Nice dream, if you think you belong enough
Now come home
Now come home
Now come home
Now come home
Nice dream
Nice dream
Nice dream
Nice dream
”
More About The Bear
The Bear is an American comedy-drama television series created by Christopher Storer for FX on Hulu. Jeremy Allen White stars as Carmy Berzatto, an award-winning chef who returns to his hometown of Chicago to manage the chaotic kitchen at his deceased brother's sandwich shop. The supporting cast includes Ebon Moss-Bachrach, Ayo Edebiri, Lionel Boyce, Liza Colón-Zayas, Abby Elliott and Matty Matheson.[1]
All episodes of the first season were released on FX on Hulu on June 23, 2022; the second season was released in its entirety on June 22, 2023. In November 2023, the series was renewed for a third season, which was released on June 26, 2024. Ahead of the third season premiere, the show was renewed for a fourth season, which will film back-to-back with the third season. (Via: wikipedia)
Website: Official The Bear on FX